Talk to people who have visited Vietnam and you often get mixed reviews. Even some of the most seasoned of travelers come to spend time in this fascinating country and report harsher treatment than in any other Southeast Asian country. So, what’s really going on? Are those who have issues just sensitive travelers used to being spoon-fed, or is there really something awry on the trail in Vietnam?

After all, even most other Southeast Asians are quick to tell you that Vietnamese are the most aggressive people in the region in many different ways.

I went to Vietnam knowing their reputation as being more aggressive than other Southeast Asians. I knew they were going to sell to me more, scold me more, and that drinking around them was more likely to result in a physical altercation of some sort. As someone who has traveled extensively in other countries and spent a good deal of time living specifically in Southeast Asia, I still did my best to arrive with an open mind and a determination to get off the beaten track.

I realized quickly that it wasn’t enough.

While these are certainly my own experiences, I found that I was constantly overcharged – far more so than ever happens in Thailand, for instance – cheated, lied to, yelled at, and aggressively cornered by touts. In one instance, a tour guide threatened to throw me (and others) off of his boat, and in other multiple cases, I agreed on a price for a meal only to be charged much more when the bill came and received an aggressive, threatening response when I objected.

In Hanoi, it’s not even enough to demand taxis use meters because they often are rigged to run twice as fast! Not to mention all the doubling back and circling your actual destination. I almost got caught with this scam, but luckily a fellow passenger had a map and was watching the streets closely. Instead of giving us our change, this same driver jumped back in the car and sped off before we could even stutter.

Add in the cold attitude, and my own experience was that Vietnam was the least welcoming country I’d ever traveled in.

So why is it this way? While a lot of people are quick to throw around racial prejudices about the Vietnamese people, I don’t think that’s going to help the problem. Certainly something needs to change, but the very fact that there are many Vietnamese who welcome you with a warm smile, invite you into their homes, and turn down your money rather than gobble it up suggests to me it is a cultural issue but by no means an ethnic issue.

I’m no scholar on the matter, but one explanation is that the North Vietnamese (my travels were confined to this region) have been taught by their government their entire lives that all of their problems are to be blamed on foreigners, especially French and Americans. While the French and the Americans have certainly played their part in Vietnam’s misery, it is by no means the complete answer to the problems they’ve faced and why they are where they are today.

And the fact that so many other countries live in such dire poverty and don’t act in this manner suggests there is more going on.

It’s no secret that the Vietnamese government strictly controls the paradigms of the Vietnamese public. While Americans certainly weren’t innocent of the horrors of the Vietnam War, for instance, our citizens today at least are given in the luxury of living in a nation where we can access both sides of the story if we want to learn more.

Vietnamese citizens, many argue, have been taught their whole lives that foreigners are responsible for their misery. And this may have a large part to do with the way they treat travelers who come to their home.

So the big question is, with all the scamming and the unwelcoming attitude of Vietnamese people (not all of them but enough to make it a headache), is it even worth a visit? I would say that based on my experiences in North Vietnam, if you’re looking for a vacation, lounging on the beach and enjoying the tropics while learning about a new culture, go somewhere else.

Or, if you do plan to visit, be the ultimate tourist and stick to luxury resorts, separating yourself completely from the locals.

I know it sounds harsh, but that’s how I feel based on my own experiences in the North of Vietnam.

That said, do I plan to go back, and if so, will I take the above advice? I will go back, and I don’t plan to stick in luxury resorts, or if I do, I plan to get out interacting with the locals as much as possible.

The reason is that I personally feel like Vietnam, despite its drawbacks, is a fascinating place to experience. I feel like, especially as an American, there is a lot to learn in Vietnam about the nature of war, the healing of wounds, the overcoming of differences, and resilience of the human spirit.

I’ll go there to fulfill this fascination, to grow as a person. But if you’re not looking for that in your travel experience at the moment, go somewhere else…at least until Vietnam changes it’s tune.

If you do want to go to Vietnam, regardless of the challenges, and experience all it has to offer, check out our next article about how to best avoid these problems in-country.

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