The Truth About Thai Girls: 5 Things You’ve Got All Wrong

Posted By: James D on Jul 10, 2010 in Culture and Customs
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It’s no secret to most people that Thailand is known for go-go bars and massage parlors. The average Western male comes here with ideas of red lights and grinding hips, and all that follows. As a result, many have a very misguided idea about what Thai girls are all about, and it’s important to keep some perspective.

The average tourist who never pulls his ass off a barstool down in Phuket, Bangkok, or Pattaya is naturally exposed only to a certain type of girls, so that’s all he sees.

But here are 5 things you’ve all wrong about Thai ladies.

1. Not All Thai Girls Are Working Girls

Not by a long shot, and most guys at least have enough common sense to realize that much. Yet they still apply the same lens to every other woman they meet and assume they’re just like those girls they meet in the bar. Which brings up the other 4 points.

2. Not All Thai Girls Want Your Money

This is a myth that goes well beyond the bar, and sure, money is a real factor in Thai relationships (in all relationships, for that matter). That doesn’t mean, however, that it is the defining factor of ALL relationships with Thais—just look at how many women in Thailand fall in love with a Thai man their age who isn’t so well off.

Not to mention that there is a whole class of society in Thailand that would look at your money and scoff. Rich Thais have more money than you could ever dream of having, and the most elite women would not be caught dead, let alone allowed, dating a farang. I’m not saying the reasons for this are just, but it helps to keep a little perspective and realize you’re not the prize you think you are.

3. Not All Thai Girls Are Easy

While younger Thais have certainly become a little more promiscuous over the years, many men in Thailand consider it common knowledge that you have to spend a long time courting a decent woman before she’ll ever consider sleeping with you. For many, it could still mean waiting for marriage.

And even if there is a chance of sleeping together sooner, for Thais the most important thing is keeping up that public image. Touching women in public or making out in front of others is pretty taboo, so keep your hands to yourself, especially if you haven’t spent enough time together to know the boundaries. Even touching a proper Thai woman’s upper arm can amount to crossing the line.

4. Not All Thai Girls Like Western Men

Can you blame them after the sampling of us they’ve grown accustomed to seeing? For many Thais, being seen with a Western man is the ultimate embarrassment. Again, I’m not condoning this kind of prejudice, but it’s a real part of Thai culture. So even if you aren’t an overweight, balding expat over here trying to get the most bang for your buck, you still won’t have access to a huge section of the dating pool.

5. Not All Poor Thai Girls Want or Need the Above Either

A lot of what I’ve mentioned above especially applies to the middle and upper classes, but it’s important to give the poorer masses of Thailand some respect too and acknowledge that many of them never resort to working as prostitutes or even looking to some Westerner to save them. Many work hard their entire lives to do their part for their family without sacraficing their morals.

Others are satisfied to marry a quiet, humble Thai man, whether he has money or not, and seem more than happy with this decision. You see, money might be more important here in many ways, but it’s also easier to be happy here with less.

So keep these things in mind when you’re visiting this beautiful country. Maintain a little perspective, try to step out of the beach bars, and make sure you leave your beer goggles in there where you found them. Because the lenses of those glasses don’t quite put things in perspective the way they should.


James D

With years of living in Southeast Asia under his belt, freelance writer James D is your go to guy for all things Southeast Asia. If you're interested in learning about the true grit of a particular place and enjoy bold statements with a humorous undertone you will love all of the articles James has on Tikikiki. James packs every article with rich information based on his own real experiences in Southeast Asia. If you want to get the real lowdown on travel in Thailand without all the sugar coating you will find it here in James' posts on Tikikiki.

Discussion - 55 Comments

  • JohnM Jul 06, 2014 

    I recently spent 10 days with a girl from Isaan I met on the internet .She never asked for money but I gave her a reasonable amount anyway .I was supprised when we said goodbye and I gave her some cash ,she gave half back to me. I treated her as well as I have ever treated any girlfriend or wife and I do believe we both enjoyed our holiday .I was very lonely and just enjoyed her company ,holding hands etc .We didn’t have much sex (twice) and slept in separate beds . The best holiday I ever had .. Thank you Thailand girls .

  • Kim Aug 19, 2014 

    The “Land of Smiles” is just amazing but for western guys “farangs” please dont check your brains in on arrival!
    Kim recently posted..Phuket Private Investigators

  • Alex Sep 18, 2014 

    I have a Thai girlfriend I meet her on a dating site have been together for 7 months on the 25th I love here very much and she loves me she tells me how she will take care of me and do everything for me being american am not us to this but I love her and her culture I try to learn all that I can and trying to learn Thai she knows am not rich she never ask me for money and she keeps sending me and my family (parents and my brothers and sister) gifts for no real reason she is the best girlfriend I have ever had she respects me and only wants the best for me and I respect her and want the best for her, we don’t talk about money or sex just about each others day she will get up early to Skype with me and I will stay up late to Skype with her, theirs more to a relationship then money and sex, I have never dated Thai women before but I know they are kind I talk to her friends and they are the same has her so kind and respectful, she says her family loves me and her mom ask about me almost every day lol, I will go see here in February if everything goes to plan (saving money) am so happy to have found her, I hope for many many years with her

  • Red Oct 27, 2014 

    I live in Thailand and have done so for over 25 years. There are many Thai ladies who want to date foreign men. My wife and I live in a village in the North East and almost everyday a young lady or girl as many of you say is asking if we know a nice foreign man to introduce her to.

  • Jhon Mar 08, 2015 

    Thai girls. Hey per capita there are more prostitutes in England than in Thailand.
    All Thai girls are beautiful. Beware the Ladyboy !!!!

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